I’ve found that most women, and especially Moms, are really bad at doing anything for themselves! Many women had mothers who didn’t prioritize their needs and society tends to reinforce moms being “the giver”. Everyone else’s needs and schedules come first and by the end of the day and week, you’re exhausted, irritable and yelling at your kids or spouse. Why? Because you don’t spend time “refueling” your tank.

It may seem impossible to do, but you must find a way to take time for you because it’s essential for rejuvenating your body, mind and soul. The simple truth is: you’ll be a BETTER MOM if your tank is full! You’ll have the energy to “be there” for your kids, whether it’s getting them to their activities, getting dinner on the table, or giving them your undivided attention. When you’ve had time to take care of your needs, your energy and focus can be there for others too.

So how do you keep your “tank full”?  Start by writing down your answers to these questions:

• When do I feel happy? What am I doing then?
• When do I feel the most energy?

Now answer these questions:

• What drains my energy?
• When am I the most irritable? Why?

Now brainstorm ways you can increase the opportunities to feel happy and energized and decrease the situations that make you irritable and drain your energy.

What Moms do to “fill their tank” can be very different from one mom to another.

For some moms, it might be starting with the luxury of taking a bath. For others it might be taking a 30 minute walk by yourself or with a friend to release tension, think or laugh. The most important part is to begin taking action now, even if it’s a few minutes. Then work toward finding a balance between your needs and the needs of your family.

For many Moms it really helps to work with a coach or other Moms to make these changes happen.

What helps you “fill your tank”?